Dear Diary #3 - Reflection

 It's almost time to share this journey. 

Being 3 days post diagnosis, the last few days have been filled with lots of conversation, a few tears, and even some laughs.

The conversations are draining, the explantions, the sympathy. Oh man, I can't put to words how little I want any sympathy. 

I think most importantly for me, I want a normal life and I will strive to keep life normal every day. Although I am going to throw this all out to the universe, put it on Facebook, and write in this blog, I struggle because I most definitely do not want the attention. I don't require affirmation. I don't seek anything from anyone. 

This blog is threefold to me.

First and foremost it will be my therapy. I have a family, and a tribe, that always has my back. I know that I have the support available to me to take this journey. I know I have people in my life that will drop what they are doing and be at my side, for an ear, or a helping hand. But this will be the place I can come to to get the words out of my head. It will be the place that I can share my story, and maybe even cry those private tears when I choose not to burden those I love most. (I totally know they will share my burdens, but sometimes a girl just needs a good old cry).

Second, I want to share my journey. I want to share the details. Over the last while it been on my mind that we all know people that have been affected by cancer, personally and with loved ones. But why don't I know what comes next? Why don't I know the details? If sharing my story, and my details, makes one person more aware of what comes next if they ever have this happen to them, then I have been succesful. 

And finally, as I said, the repeated conversations are draining. I want this to be a place that those in my tribe can follow along with any updates they choose. I don't know how often I will post,  but I know this is where I will be when something important needs to be said, or something important happens. 

I wonder if anyone will go back and read these posts made before sharing my link.....time will tell. 

Peace and love

Barb


Comments

  1. Umbridge ShenanigansNovember 8, 2020 at 7:23 PM

    You know where you find sympathy? In the dictionary between shit and syphilis :)

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  2. sallythewelshgirlNovember 11, 2020 at 10:27 AM

    Ask me any details you want bint - will happily share anything that might help - the bints are with you all the way! XXXXX

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